A friend wanted to buy me a book while we were at the book store. I said ‘No’ very firmly to yet another self-help book.
Actually gifting a self-help book is a very delicate thing which you should do only if you are sure the person would like it. Otherwise, the implication is you feel the other person is not okay and needs some correction.
One of the things I’d like to let go off is reading self-help books; even though they make nice reading. I’ve read a lot of them from Dale Carnegie thro Stephen Covey to Robin Sharma ( who didnt appeal too much but still kept appearing ) . And Louise Hay .. I like the affirmations but not the guilt for the illnesses that appear in my life. I have enough guilts without adding new ones. I’ve started off so many programs to get better but never finished. Be less critical, be less judgmental, meditate. I’m sure all of us know what or who we’d like to be.
Now, I think Im okay as I am. And I’d just like to live from where I am without constantly feeling I’m not living up to some standard. And when I look around at people I know who’ve been meditating for years or telling me to act non-judgemental; then I find that they are as human underneath as me.
We try, we slip up and we go on. That’s about it.
Im okay and sometimes I think you are okay and sometimes not. But that’s okay. We’re both good and nice people. With some crankiness sometimes. Terrifically human.
Michael J Contos passes on this beautiful list of symptoms of Inner peace at Contoveros’ Blog . Which one would you choose?