Ive been cleaning house all morning. I guess its therapeutic after a hecticweekend. Outer order brings inner calm, as Gretchen Rubin of the Happiness Project likes to say.
Shunting between Chennai and Ooty, catching up at Ooty after a week’s absence made the long weekend very non restful. Maybe it was the feeling that I was leaving again which made me rush to catch up.
Getting Sindhu’s driving licence, which was the purpose of the trip was rather stressful. Since she lives away from home, her driving lessons have been rather skimpy. Teaching a child to drive could rate among the worlds’ most stressful activities, at least for me. We did a crash course to brush up her knowledge of driving a 4-wheeler all of one long afternoon. The two wheeler appeared from the workshop only when she was actually at the driving test, giving her no time to get reacquainted. But she coped, better than I expected and better than I did .I let the trauma of the actual driving test on wet roads, surrounded a by a host of anxious young people and the red tape get to me. It is bliss to have reached the other side. Im sure there are lots of easier ways to cope but like being on a TV show, all the smart answers come later.
Writing your ‘bucket list’ or the list of things you wish to do before you ‘kick the bucket’ or pass on has become common parlance. To counter , Amy Krouse Rosenthal has come up with the ‘F*ck It list of things you don’t wish to do any longer. See her site for the ideas of several people of things they no longer wish to do.
Top of my list would be ‘ free myself from guilt’.
-when near and dear pile me with requests and I have to skip a few
-when I could have done things better but didn’t because of laziness or just not wanting to make the effort
-not being available to family when they want me to but I feel like doing something else
– over giving away gifts I can’t use or don’t want to keep
– about being a little mean or short tempered with someone, its all too human and okay
I hope this list will keep growing 🙂