When I came back after the engagement, I was filled with a sense of well being and gratitude. Suffused with the aftermath of a function that went well and was much appreciated, I thought I would sit down and write a list of 50 things in my life for which I am grateful. I didn’t get past 38. To get to ‘HBO” and ‘blanket’ in a life list seems rather sad 🙂
Topping my list has always been my family going beyond my children to sisters, parents, cousins and a few devoted friends who are people I can always count on. My internet friends were also in my list 🙂
But, I’ve also been realizing how each member of the family likes to second guess everything I say. If I say, let’s go by car, a few people are sure to say why not by train? Why? I’d really like to know if all families are like this , or is it just this one?
My thoughts have been so people-centric this week, that I thought I must record all this distilled wisdom.
– people like to be involved in activities like weddings ; be an active participant rather than a passive onlooker and a successful organiser pulls them in
– blood relatives forgive you easier and overlook it when you lose your temper or do something not so nice; people who have married into the family still stay on the other side of the line and are quick to distance themselves
– very often people say what they don’t mean; but their actions generally follow the drift of their hearts
That seems to be the outcome of 50 years of living – life is all about understanding people
And my new prayer is ”God, let me understand what the other person really wants’.